Your reaction to situations is instinctive. You don't choose how you react, it just happens. If you think you have been wronged, you have; if you feel anger, you are angry; and if it matters to you, it matters! Stop trying to justify why you think the way you think and feel the way you feel. Stop trying to convince yourself that you shouldn't think "that" or feel "that" way. Stop telling yourself that it doesn't matter!
The important thing to remember is that when a negative emotion is triggered, YOU have an opportunity to HEAL, and if you don't HEAL it, that negative energy stays within you whether you want it to or not. (The first 3 Infinite Healing™ tools are designed to help you HEAL the negative. It really is quite simple.)
It's time to start HONORING what you really think and what you really feel. It's time to start HEALING the negative instead of ignoring it. It's time to start being TRULY positive instead of just pretending you are.
What you feel is triggered by what you are thinking (whether you HONOR it or not), and the energy of those thoughts and emotions is what you are putting into everything you are doing.
If your thoughts and emotions are negative, you will be contributing lower-level energy to what you are doing; if your thoughts and emotions are positive, you will be contributing higher-level energy to what you are dong. Keep in Mind, however, that if you are having negative thoughts and feelings, just forcing your thoughts to a positive will not necessarily shift your energy higher as quickly as you might want. That is why it is more effective to use the Infinite Healing™ tools to HEAL the negative so the positive can flow naturally.
Cooking in our house is never allowed if the cook is grumpy or mad because that energy goes into the food. This concept applies to absolutely everything in life: gardening, art, working, writing, paying bills, driving, sports, watching the news, etc. and is explained in detail in the Infinite Healing™ book under Principle #2: Everything is Influenced by Energy (pages 39-46).
Become aware of the energy are you REALLY putting into what you are doing because that is also the frequency you are contributing to the Universe.
In Unconditional Love & Unconditional Gratitude™,
You don't choose how you feel. Your emotions are instinctively triggered by your thoughts. You do, however, get to choose what you do with those emotions.
I learned a long time ago to not give the negative any attention, because giving it attention gives it power. So I would ignore those lower-level thoughts and suppress what I was really feeling by focusing my attention to something positive, try to justify the experience, or by just deny that I thought what I thought and felt what I felt. Other times I would try to convince myself that I shouldn't feel that way, try to let go of it, clear it out of my energy field, release it into the Universe, or cancel the energy ("cancel, cancel, cancel").
What I didn't know was that the negative has power whether I HONOR it or not and that using these other means was just hiding the problem - masking the symptom like taking a pill for a headache.
When you use the Infinite Healing™ tools to HEAL, you HEAL your perspective and the emotions that were triggered, which prevents them from settling in the physical.
Now that I have learned the difference between ignoring the negative and HEALING the negative, I am not a victim of other people's actions, I can honestly say that I know what flowing in Unconditional Love & Unconditional Gratitude™ feels like, and I often smile just because life is awesome.
I hope you are able to learn the difference.