Helping others, doing things for others, taking care of others, etc. makes you feel good; makes you feel needed; makes you feel wanted. It is like filling a bag with water. When you do something for others because you want to, it adds water to your bag.
Neglecting yourself, putting yourself last, and doing things for others out of obligation or "because you have to" creates negativity in your Spirit, Mind, Heart, and Body, and puts holes in your bag. Holes in your bag drain the water (Joy) that’s in your bag. In this analogy, it does not matter how much you water you put in, if you do not fill the holes, your bag can never accumulate water. It is like a never-ending task.
Taking care of yourself, doing things for yourself, and making yourself a priority does not have to be selfish. In fact, doing these fill the holes in your bag as if they were never there, and they contribute positive energy to your Spirit, Mind, Heart, and Body.
If you are not willing to make yourself a priority, it can be a challenge to attract those who will. Besides, when you take care of yourself, you are much better able to help take care of others, and when you nurture yourself, your Spirit soars!
If you want to be at the top of others' priority list, start learning to put yourself at the top of your own! What message are YOU giving to others about your importance?